ThePowerofRestraint:AStoryofOvercomingAnger

摘要： ThePowerofRestraint:AStoryofOvercomingAngerForeword:Angerisapowerfulemotionthatcaneasi...

ThePowerofRestraint:AStoryofOvercomingAnger

Foreword:Angerisapowerfulemotionthatcaneasilytakecontrolofourthoughtsandactions.Itcanleadustodothingswelaterregretanddamagerelationshipswithlovedones.However,withpatienceandrestraint,itispossibletoovercomeangerandfindinnerpeace.Thisisastoryaboutamanwholearnedthepowerofrestraintandforgiveness.

1.Tomwasahot-headedmanwhohadashortfusewhenitcametodealingwithpeoplewhodisagreedwithhimordidsomethinghedidn'tlike.

2.Hewouldoftenlosehistemperandlashoutinanger,causingthosearoundhimtofeeluncomfortableandafraid.

3.Oneday,Tomgotintoanargumentwithacolleagueatworkoveraprojecttheywereworkingontogether.

4.Thedisagreementescalatedquickly,andbeforeheknewit,Tomwasshoutingandhurlinginsultsathiscolleague.

5.Thenextday,Tom'sbosscalledhimintohisofficetodiscusstheincident.

6.HetoldTomthathisbehaviorwasunacceptableandthatifhedidn'tlearntocontrolhisanger,hecouldlosehisjob.

7.Tomwasstunnedbytheseverityofthewarningandrealizedthatheneededtomakesomechangesinhislife.

8.Hebeganreadingbooksonangermanagementandsoughtoutcounselingtohelphimdealwithhisemotions.

9.Overtime,Tomlearnedthepowerofrestraintandbegantopracticepatienceinhisinteractionswithothers.

10.Wheneverhefelthimselfgettingangry,hewouldtakeadeepbreathandcounttotenbeforeresponding.

11.Thisallowedhimtocalmdownandthinkmoreclearlyaboutthesituationbeforereactingimpulsively.

12.Asaresult,Tomfoundthathisrelationshipswithothersimprovedsignificantly.

13.Hewasabletocommunicatemoreeffectively,listentoothers'perspectives,andworkthroughdisagreementswithoutlosinghistemper.

14.However,therewasonepersonwhoTomstillstruggledtoforgive–hisex-wife.

15.Theyhadgonethroughabitterdivorceseveralyearsago,andTomstillharboredalotofresentmenttowardsher.

16.Hewouldoftenfindhimselfreplayingthehurtfulthingsshehadsaidanddoneinhismind,whichwouldfuelhisanger.

17.Oneday,TomcameacrossaquotebyNelsonMandelathatread,"Resentmentislikedrinkingpoisonandthenhopingitwillkillyourenemies."

18.Thequoteresonatedwithhim,andherealizedthatbyholdingontohisangertowardshisex-wife,hewasonlyhurtinghimself.

19.Tomdecidedtoreachouttohisex-wifeandarrangeameetingtotalkthingsthrough.

20.Duringtheirconversation,Tomwasabletoexpresshowhefeltandlistentoherperspectiveaswell.

21.Bytheendofthemeeting,theyhadbothapologizedfortheirpastmistakesandagreedtomoveforwardwithforgivenessandunderstanding.

22.Tomfeltaweightliftoffhisshouldersasheleftthemeeting,realizingthatthepowerofrestraintandforgivenesshadbroughthimclosertoinnerpeacethaneverbefore.